…those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies: These are the things which defile a man:
~ Matthew 15: 18-20, KJV ~
A person, more than likely, may look outward than inward for solutions to their problems. However, an honest spiritual recovery is about changing ourselves from within. As we come to terms with ourselves, we learn to be in relationship with friends and family. What used to be dismal in past years may present better opportunities for restoration and rich love in the present. This is because of the love we receive helps us express that love toward others as our perceptions change.
Love does not defile us. Deep, enduring, and enriching love helps us enrich our relationships with different people. What defiles us are those things that do not spring forth from love. With love, we speak life into other people. With hate, we speak forth destruction through our criticism, judgment, jealousy, anger, and resentments. What defiles us is not what is presented outside of ourselves; but, what is spoken forth from our inner sanctuary of thoughts and emotions.
Only divine love from our Heavenly Father helps us come to terms with the inward and carnal nature of our humanity. It helps us identify and transform ourselves toward love. This is why scripture says love covers a multitude of sins (cf. 1 Peter 4:8). This love is charity toward different relationships we have in our lives. We do not expect all relationships to be alike.
Therefore, no single relationship is sufficient for us: but collectively, different relationships sustain and enrich our lives and this is accomplished with love of God, love of self, and love of others.
Today, let us be thankful for genuine Godly love that gives meaning and hope in our lives.